I’ve been interested in style and fashion for as long as I can remember. Back in the day, the problem was getting your hands on any information.

Now, we have the opposite problem. The problem is that there are many competing and unprofessional opinions on style out there with no tangible system or framework to back up the claims.

We've all been there - standing in front of the mirror and feeling clueless, unsure, hesitant. Is it the color? The cut? The style? Something is off... but what?

So, to take away some of the stress so many women feel around style these days and make things easier, here are a few red flags to pay attention to that often show up:


1. You wear colors that don't do your face any favors

When you were at school, most likely you have seen a color wheel and learned color theory: any color can look good on a canvas, provided the artist uses the right color combinations.

And even if you were paying attention during that class, this is what your teacher didn't tell you: not all colors were created equal, and not every color looks good on every person.

If they were, each of us would look fresh, radiant, and young every day. Yet, you have probably noticed that people often look "off" in certain colors, while others bring out a healthy glow.

If you don’t know your color palette, you often gamble when shopping, not sure what will flatter and what will fall flat.

But once you know your best colors, choosing pieces that light up your face becomes effortless.


2. Your clothes highlight the wrong areas

Almost every closet has items that draw attention to spots most women would rather downplay. The problem?

They can end up stealing the spotlight from your natural assets. The right pieces should show off your best features - not make the less flattering ones the main event.

3. You don't remember your natural hair color

After years of dyeing, it’s easy to lose track of the best shade nature gave you.

Going too far from it or leaving it gray can dull the freshness of your face or make your hair look ‘wig-like’. But when the right tone is in place, even with barely any makeup, your face can look vibrant and expressive.


4. You dress like a stereotype

Here, think “ditzy blonde,” “femme fatale,” or “cold businesswoman.” Sometimes a brand’s vibe or a single store’s style takes over, and suddenly your wardrobe feels more like a costume than real life.

That mismatch often shows when your outside doesn’t quite align with who you actually are.


5. Your closet is full of only work clothes

It’s great for the office or a sports facility, but not so great when a fun night out comes up. You walk up to your closet 15 minutes before you have to walk out the door... and you sigh in frustration because there is nothing to wear - AGAIN! And you painfully sort through all similar 26 pencil skirts, T-shirts, or jeans.

With little variety, your frustration keeps repeating – and so do your missed chances to show your personality outside of work.


6. Clothes from decades ago are still hanging around

Sometimes a top or a dress from college makes it all the way into your second career. It can happen for lots of reasons: it took years to get where you are now, and you finally have some disposable income, or you were trying to look more mature when you were younger.

Either way, pieces that no longer fit your life stage can make your image feel inconsistent.


7. You have no idea how to wear accessories

Yes, accessories can be tricky. Jewelry that doesn’t match, shoes that don’t fit the outfit, or bags that feel off – all hint at inexperience.

When you don’t wear accessories or they‘re used incorrectly, it’s usually a sign that style guidance could make a big difference here.

8. You stick to the same basic color combos

White-on-black feels safe, but relying on the same old combinations can make your wardrobe feel flat or uninspired. A few thoughtful color choices can make everything look more polished and intentional.


9. Your wardrobe is sweet cotton candy, but your personality is spicy Chipotle

If you look and feel natural in plush, oversized sweaters but try to force a romantic, high-heel look, believe me, we can tell! A wardrobe that doesn’t match the personality… they clash.

The trick is finding a balance that feels and looks natural on you while still expressing the image you want to project.


10. Your McQueens are wearing you

Fashion is meant to be fun. Every season, it challenges us to experiment, but some trend-driven pieces can overpower your natural look. If a garment doesn’t enhance your features, it might be better admired in-store than in your closet.


Now, these are just a few of the common red flags women run into on their style journey. They often show where style guidance can help.

Spotting them is the first step toward building a wardrobe that feels authentic, versatile, and truly flattering. The second best step is letting me know: when it comes to expressing your true self - your personal style, wardrobe, and getting dressed - what is the #1 struggle or challenge you’re dealing with right now?

Feel free to share as much as you need to – I’ll be reading every word to provide support through our style advice and training programs.